Some people in this world are truly special. One of dad's doctors called shortly after my dad died, and he sent a letter saying the same thing. For four months (and even now) I thought constantly of the details of dad's cancer like it was a nefarious puzzle I was trying to solve. No matter how many different ways I considered it, I couldn't solve it. You would think that such a letter would come from an oncologist who was used to patients' families being haunted by the complicated choices of fighting cancer, but it actually came from one of his urologists. He is an exceptionally thoughtful doctor and a kind man, and my mother and I are grateful to him.
Dear Mrs. Shute and Family:
I am very sorry about the passing of your husband, James Shute. As you know, I did not get to know him for very long but I can tell you that he never seemed to complain despite his many medical problems. I know it was difficult for you to make decisions about him but I think it is important to let you know that I think everything that you did was correct. I do know that he was lucky to have such a loving family around him.
If there is anything that I or my office can do for you, please do not hesitate to let me know.